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Yeah, I’m out. I just spent some time browsing around and I feel like shit now. I can’t be on this site. Fucking an/tis. Seriously, it’s all about that bullshit. An/tis make me feel terrible whenever I run into their bullshit for even a second, and pretty much the only community I want to interact with on here is overrun with them. So yeah, if they ever leave I might be back, but probably not. Goodbye.
I might not be coming back. Taking such a long break from this site has made me realize that all the dis/cou/rse bullshit and the atmosphere in general was terrible for my mental health. Honestly, it was poisoning me. If I ever come back, it’ll probably be to reblog fandom stuff, though an/tis have made that too fraught and emotionally dangerous for me as it is now. As my blog title says, I deserve better. Bye.
The tumblr mobile site is super fucked up for me at the moment so I can’t post. Not sure when I’ll be back. I can Mel text posts but I can’t tag them. Other than that I can’t do anything.
This is random, but that part in nightmare on elm street where the protagonist yells “SCREW SLEEP” and smashes a bottle of booze on the floor is something I really feel, ya know?
I love Alex Schaefer impasto works depicting branches of Chase bank going up in flames in daytime. They were from a series by him called “Disaster Capitalism,” and apparently the banks (and cops) would pretend he was planning acts of arson to try and make him stop painting. [via mutantspace, via Janie]
This is so cool. That last one looks just like a scene I’d see in everyday life, but the bank is just casually on fire. These images don’t give off a sense of dread or damage to me. Everything is normal except the fire, which touches nothing else. It’s really interesting.
Yes, and this is because men do not have to have any romantic desire for a woman to be motivated to treat her as a human being. The idea that men are only capable of decency towards women they are romantically attracted to is MASSIVELY SEXIST and shifts the responsibility off of men to not be misogynists as long as they eventually find a woman they fall in love with. It’s utter bullshit and I’d be surprised it caught on if anything in discourse surprised me anymore, which it doesn’t.
If I had a dime for every time someone did this I would have money for therapy and all future hospitalizations
Am I the only one who finds it uncomfortable that people are trying to police who are the “real” people suffering from mental health issues and who are “faking”.
Like, I honestly don’t think someone would fake a panic attack or suicidal thoughts for the banter. I’m not sure where this idea has come from, but it’s harmful and stops a lot of people speaking out.
This idea of “faking” mental illnesses only leads to people who need help constantly wonder if they’re faking, and then actively not seek out help because they think someone else who is “really suffering” deserves it more.
yeah these posts are literally “So, you GOOD mentally ill people who I as a neurotypical deem Valid (typically ones who try to blend in as best they can, don’t advocate for or even advocate against acceptance of mental illness, and never talk about their illnesses) don’t you agree that all those fakers are the worst? See, I mentioned the REAL mentally ill people, I’m not ableist!!” The idea that people fake mental illness is one of the most damaging ideas people have about mental illness, full stop.
I’ve been literally suicidal and STILL wondered if I was faking.
I’ve NEVER seen a mentally ill person who hasn’t wondered at some point if they were faking, which is the last thing any of us need.
lotta people saying “yeah but also 20 year olds also shouldnt hit on 14 year olds!”
yeah, 20 year olds know that, and the 20 year olds who arent shitty people respect that.
but 14 year olds don’t really think to stop themselves from getting crushes and hitting on people way older than them. it makes people like me who are 18+ feel super uncomfortable.
it’s flattering, sure, but it still makes me feel weird.
good lord the ppl fuckin intentionally misinterpreting the point of this post so they can pat themselves on the back for pretendin they’re destroying an act of injustice. lemme break this down for u
here’s what the usual scenario would be
heres what people have been misinterpreting this complaint to be about
there are infinite responses ‘countering’ the post by saying that “it’s the adult’s job to shut the child down,” which is insinuating that 1) we’re talking about adult-child relationships, and 2) that the post is claiming children are at fault for them. except we’re talking about a child engaging in flirting outside their age group, and that they should stop this behavior.
what u seem to be forgetting is that, yknow, context matters. @paper-mario-wiki made this post as someone with tens of thousands of followers, and the event that prompted it was me complaining to him about my own experiences, as someone with also tens of thousands of followers. so its more like this
add onto that that we’re dating, and that a lot of young teen/tween girls really like to latch onto internet personalities AND gay relationships, and u got 2 prime fuckin targets for a lot of unwanted attention. {to be clear: a lot of young teenage girls seeking a relationship.} it gets particularly less tolerable when the kid takes to more drastic measures for attention, like private messaging, sharing photos, and trying to engage in inappropriate behaviors they think will make them be taken more seriously.
a lot of people tried to argue that our concern should be that the kids might do this frequently with other adults and get themselves into serious danger, and that we should be more focused on letting them know it’s wrong. you’re completely right! we should! we should communicate to them that this behavior should stop! here, lemme whip up a quick post about it.
perfect
the point of this was to gently lay the word down on a website that’s particularly popular with that crowd. the fact that so many people are reaching so far as to claim that this is fucking pedophilia apologist is like, gut-wrenchingly awful. shame on you for making such a serious accusation like that out of a post that could not have even mildly insinuated that somehow a child is at fault in an abusive predatory relationship.
im disgusted bc you and i both know damn well that’s not what was being said, and yet you took it as a chance to put those words in his mouth so you could make yourself feel good for berating him.
anyways, i stand by the initial point of the post 100%. if you’re a minor, do not try to appeal to people who are beyond your age group. you are going to instantly make them uncomfortable not only because of the unsolicited attention but also because you are putting them in an incredibly awkward position due to your age and the nature of the conversation.
it’s not their job to have that discussion with a child about what’s inappropriate and why. don’t put that on them. for everyones sake, dont flirt with adults.
Yeah. Please don’t do this. It’s really really uncomfortable to be on the receiving end of it. A lot of kids think it’s ok as just a little joke or whatever because they’re minors so they’re not threatening, but it’s a VERY bad feeling to hear a kid say they’re interested in you. It has nothing to do with actual relationships–actually, I think most of the people who do it fully expect to be rebuffed, they just don’t realize how bad it can feel to be on the other end of it.
Like my problem isn’t even that a queerplantonic relationship COULDN’T be extremely friendship-like or almost indistinguishable from a friendship. That’s a totally valid option. But the experience is different enough that a group of ppl made up a word for it and others are way too eager to deprive them of it and invalidate that experience so they can speak over that group when 99% of the time they don’t even have a solid grasp on what they’re talking about, THAT’S my problem
